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The True Mark of a Friend!!!


If ever there is tomorrow when we’re not together… there is something you must always remember. You are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think. But the most important thing is, even if we’re apart… I’ll always be with you.

– Winnie the Pooh

The Philosopher’s Corner

There is something intimately tied to the concept of friendship that fosters hope, belief, and encouragement to strive towards the goals we seek. An old joke goes:

Do You the difference between and friend and an acquaintance?

A true friend is sitting in the cell with you!

I guess I must have hung out with a pretty rough group of people growing up, even though I had not been in that kind of trouble myself. Well, you also heard the saying about jokes in general, within the context of any joke exists a half-truth. Here is the thing, there is some truth to this viewpoint of friendship, although we can remove the illicit nature behind the activity for most true friends.

Friends are a means of support, nourishment, love, and support. However, friendships can also become destructive if they have served their purpose and one or the other party has moved on. Like any form of relationship, they are dynamic by nature. They must grow and allow us to mutually grow within their context. If not, the relationship and eventually the self begin to stagnate, causing the person to become paralyzed within the context of a relationship that no longer works.

Here… Winnie the Pooh reminds us of the supportive function friendships give us. A true friendship acts as a beacon of hope. They allow us to gauge or own sense of courage, foster our own sense of security, and work towards our own best aim even in light of the many areas of self doubt that ultimately arise from that person that stares back at you in the mirror.

This Valentines Day, do the friendly thing, and be grateful for that friend that brings out the best in you.

Believe… Achieve… Advance Confidently in the Direction of Your Dreams.

2 responses to “Inspiration: The True Mark of a Friend”

  1. Don't Lose Hope – Director of the Online Counselling College and Coaching Skills International, both based in Calgary, Canada. We provide general and specialist training in counselling and coaching. You can contact me at:
    Don’t Lose Hope says:

    I’m guessing you’ve heard the saying: “Friends are for a reason, a season or a lifetime.” Looking back on my only relationships, I can see how very true that is, and how each serves a purpose in its own way.

    • Dr. Thomas Maples – Stockton, California – Dr. Thomas Maples, Ph.D. is a licensed psychotherapist, author, and the founder of The Stockton Therapy Network. As a Marriage and Family Therapist, he has helped many people resolve interpersonal conflict, heal from the emotional distress, and overcome mental health problems such as depression, anxiety, and issues that result from personality disorders. He also specializes in helping couples resolve interpersonal problems, marital discord, and parent / child relationship conflicts by helping his clients identify the sources of relationship conflict, find areas of growth they can agree to engage, and setting a plan to enact those changes to assure relational growth. As a researcher and writer, Dr. Maples focuses on developmental, analytical, and psychoanalytic methods of psychology. Through his writings, Dr. Tom has helped countless people understand, plan, and implement effective paths to reach optimal psychological, spiritual, and physiological development. "Advance Confidently in the Direction of Your Dreams."
      Dr. Thomas Maples says:

      I haven’t heard the saying, but found great wisdom in its content. Thank you for sharing, friendships are always a source of internal growth, even when paths diverge, there is the potential for growth present.

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