Sometimes a Step Backwards… Is All That We Need

Inspirational Quotes

Some people care too much. I think it’s called love.

Winnie the Pooh

Love is taking a few steps backward maybe even more… to give way to the happiness of the person you love.

Winnie the Pooh

A Father’s Guide to Wisdom

There is beautiful wisdom behind A.A. Milne’s Winnie the Pooh character. At heart, his stories tell of ways that object relationships unfold. A child’s loving relationship with his plush toys forms their theme. How much simpler can it get? Children playing with their toys, yet learning the complexities of life, love, and happiness in these simple, yet powerful interactions.

I think we can all learn a little bit by going back and re-reading these children’s stories. Who doesn’t need a little more love in their life? Who wouldn’t benefit from a simple reminder to care, and to care big? I read a sign the other day that said no one went poor by showing a little charity. At the heart of this idea is compassion, but to get to this state, we must first learn to harness the self-compassion needed to build an abundance of this trait in our life. But, frequently, the idea of self-compassion is where the adult psyche gets stuck and may need a little bit of help along the way.

As adults, we complicate things. We search for greener pastures to stake a claim. But the greats remind us to smell the roses right beneath our feet. The funny thing is, in the general push for continual progression, its a wonder if we ever noticed the flowers there in the first place. I think this is what our wise old bear is reminding us of when he says to take a step back and give way to the happiness of the person you love. Maybe it is there that your joy will emerge.

Namaste. May prayers and blessings find you on your journey to believe, achieve, and advance confidently in the direction of your dreams.

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2 responses to “Sometimes a Step Backwards… Is All That We Need”

  1. My Grandson attempted suicide (3) time. His Mother took him and we could not find her, as she moved changed phone number. Mother failures to let Father know as he has full custody.i was having dreams , seeing him in a field, screaming for help. Because I.m a worthless grandmother , police asked for fathers number. They called him and a father thought he possibly was in Galt. No he wasn’t , but through cell towers, they got him and the father got him. They (husband and wife) live in Jackson in a hotel. Managers said no third person in room. He stayed 4 nights and the mother said he is to go back. I talked to him and he wants help. Neither parent will get him help. Grandma will. I live out of state. I am afraid , if he doesn’t get help, in which is a call out for help. He will succeed, trying and not getting the help. All excuses why they can’t is a cop-out. I feel helpless. Mother has truly never followed through in doing anything positive for him. Rite of passage near or in San Andreas has a residential program. No school. Failed freshman year, I asked him how are you doing with just online. He hates it! He has computer from tokay in Lodi but is with mom in valley springs.

    • Dr. Thomas Maples – Stockton, California – Dr. Thomas Maples, Ph.D. is a licensed psychotherapist, author, and the founder of The Stockton Therapy Network. As a Marriage and Family Therapist, he has helped many people resolve interpersonal conflict, heal from the emotional distress, and overcome mental health problems such as depression, anxiety, and issues that result from personality disorders. He also specializes in helping couples resolve interpersonal problems, marital discord, and parent / child relationship conflicts by helping his clients identify the sources of relationship conflict, find areas of growth they can agree to engage, and setting a plan to enact those changes to assure relational growth. As a researcher and writer, Dr. Maples focuses on developmental, analytical, and psychoanalytic methods of psychology. Through his writings, Dr. Tom has helped countless people understand, plan, and implement effective paths to reach optimal psychological, spiritual, and physiological development. "Advance Confidently in the Direction of Your Dreams."
      Dr. Thomas Maples says:

      Hello Debra. I am so sorry to hear this. If he is a teenager, he can reach out for mental health help on his own through children’s consent. If I remember right, age of 16 is the age of consent, but minors can give temporary consent as young as 14. I am not sure of his insurance, but whatever insurance he has, they will have clinicians he can be referred to and can guide him or you in setting up the services. He may need guidance to know where to find it.

      ROP in San Andreas is a good program, but it primarily handles children with probation difficulties. There is also routes through agencies such as non-profits that he may be able to turn. I know in the past there was a safe-house for children in Stockton, CA. I included information that I found for them below. I hope this helps.

      Safe House Emergency Shelter Number 209-929-6737.

      It has been awhile since I worked with them, but that is the number I found online. They may be able to help.

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