Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one that gets burned.
In divorce, the division of assets is superseded as a point of contention solely by the division of child custody. This is a sad, but true fact; but even worse, oftentimes, the context of child custody litigation has as its sole source financial maneuvering between the warring parties.
When divorcing, it is imperative to approach the process as a business proposition. The worst thing you can do is to let your emotions run very real decisions that will affect the course of your future familial life. Let’s face it, if you chose to have a child with another individual, you will remain intimately intertwined with that individual for the rest of your life, despite whether you remain married or not. The only option beyond this, is NOT in the best interest of the child, and that is a common practice of trying to split the secondary parental relationship as being ALL BAD versus the ALL GOOD scenario offered in the home setting provided by the alienating parent.
While it is normal to have emotions in a divorce, work these through with a therapist, not your attorney. It is normal to have emotions during a point of separation. You are hurt, and making decisions form an emotional state will only affect you and your children’s future outcome. Here is a great article written by Maples Family Law on 5 common mistakes of High Asset Divorces you cannot afford to make.
Divorce can be a complicated process that requires legal assistance. It is also a highly emotional process, where we must take account of the past, and rectify our present through future aspirations. If you find yourself stuck emotionally, Dr. Thomas Maples of the Stockton Therapy Network can help. Whether you need help with reconciling your relationship, are in need of marital counseling, or are looking to separate your marriage in an amicable fashion, we can help you to move on with your individual and/or relational life.