What’s Your Happiness Habit?


When I was 5 years old, my mother always told me that happiness was the key to life. When I went to school, they asked me what I wanted to be when I grew up. I wrote down ‘happy’. They told me I didn’t understand the assignment, and I told them they didn’t understand life.

John Lennon

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Wow, how the world changes, yet remains so much the same. As I see everything going on, I can’t help but try to find a silver lining. As the poet Maya Angelou once said, “Be a Rainbow in Someone Else’s Cloud.”

But why is it so hard to maintain our general sense of happiness and wellbeing? As the late, great John Lennon said, we need not look far. The entirety of our system is set up to indoctrinate us in a method of thinking that squashes childhood innocence and reverie. While the schoolmaster is well aware of the systematic destruction of childhood consciousness, what Robert Bly termed the Golden Ball, it that very experimental attitude that envelops the childhood psyche that creates avenues from which adult happiness can emerge. Please don’t get me wrong. I am not advocating the abdication of our adult responsibilities. What I am suggesting is a marriage between the adult and the childhood forms of psyche.

Our maturational journey is a great circle. The key to happiness was never lost, even though it may have been systematically reinforced to move deeper and deeper within the psyche. We grow, we mature, and we individuate. As the Bible states:

When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me.

1 Corinthians 13:11

As we age, we move into adult forms of consciousness. This allows us to take part in, and care for the next generation. But the indoctrination into adult forms of consciousness is just one way of thinking, and when it comes to making meaning about life, a return to seeing the world with un-judging eyes creates the means by which self development emerges.

What will you do today to have some fun? What serious matter can you re-examine today from the perspective of childhood bliss to create a little fun in your life? Have you taken life to seriously lately? Maybe it’s time to re-kindle that happiness habit. Today, I choose to dance, both literally and figuratively. Let’s move this energy to new heights.

With prayers and blessings. Believe… Achieve… Advance Confidently in the Direction of Your Dreams.

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