Exercises in Change from the Life Coach…
Imagine a Brave New World. Not as Aldous Huxley imagined in his totalitarian exploration of government gone terribly wrong. But instead, a world where we have the freedoms to exist in peace and harmony with one another, free to explore the inner and outer depths of how our soul emerges into ever-growing forms of a Self Realized state. What peace would there be if we only followed the words of Jesus, who told us to
All too often, we get caught in the rat trap of external reinforcement factors. As a practicing psychotherapist and life coach, I have termed this energy flow an external locus of control. This is where issues around fame, narcissism, likes, the need for acceptance, etc., come from as we strive to be seen amongst our peers. Not that this is bad, because we all need to belong to a tribe or a more significant cause. However, the internal locus of control necessary to round one’s personality is sorely missing from this perspective.
Not that having an internal locus of control fares much different. More introverted people tend to have strong suppositions, but their internal preoccupation fosters degrees of loneliness, non-belonging, and fears around the ways they perceive they express themselves. For them, adopting a more social form of existence is paramount, as they break free from their cocoons and experience that external locus of control.
What is paramount from both perspectives is the bravery needed to move to the other side and find the middle ground between both views so the personality can encompass the beauty of the soul’s journey. How can we do this…
- Focus on one area of self that has been nagging at you.
- Identify the excuses behind it.
- I am not good enough.
- It will take too much time.
- Everyone in my family is doing it.
- It will be too hard.
- It will be too expensive.
- Create a new sentence
- I am good enough.
- I have my life to look forward too.
- I am not anyone else, not even my family knows what is best for me.
- Why will it be hard?
- Will it truly be expensive?
- Practice at it for three weeks.
- It normally takes a little over two weeks to form a new Habit.
- Show gratitude and loving-kindness for yourself everyday you engage this new habit.
- Elicit the support of loved ones you know will support you.
- Enjoy the Journey
As Lao Tzu once said,
I hope you enjoyed this little exercise in perspectives of change. Until next time my friends, Namaste. May blessings find you on your journey to advance confidently in the direction of your dreams.